Thursday, January 28, 2016
Have you ever given someone your advice? Did you do so because you felt it was good advice? Have your averages been high considering the advice you gave? The reason I ask is because advice doesn’t always fit the occasion.
Not long ago I received a paper giving “Four Guidelines For Modest Dress.” Since 1 Timothy 2:8-10 was quoted, I assumed it was specifically for women, but I could be wrong. The first part of that passages is directed to men.
The guidelines were:
1. If you have trouble getting into it or out of it, IT IS PROBABLY NOT MODEST.
2. If you have to be careful when you sit down or bend over, IT IS PROBABLY NOT MODEST.
3. If people look at any part of your body before looking at your face, IT IS PROBABLY NOT MODEST.
4. If you can see your most private body parts under the fabric, IT IS PROBABLY NOT MODEST.
I can appreciate the author’s reason for giving those probabilities, but they may not always be valid.
Recently my wife and I drove 376 miles to attend a memorial service for a very good friend of 40 years. We arrived the day before so we would be fresh the next day. As I was dressing for the occasion, my wife handed me the dress trousers she brought for me to wear. The change in distance from Tennessee to Florida must have had an adverse affect upon those pants. There was a gap of 3-4″ between the button and its adjoining button hole. My suggestion to substitute jeans with my shirt, tie, and jacket was not received well. I did a gut calibration and managed to close the gap. Don’t ask me how I continued to breath! However, my wife was happy. Don’t ask me about it! Since I had trouble getting in and out of the trousers, was I immodest?
When I arrived at the church building, I found a pew and began to slowly descend to make a gently landing on the pew. I wasn’t afraid the seat of the trousers would be stretched beyond its endurance, but was concerned about my waist. My eyes may have bulged just a little and my “grunt” was polite, but breathing wasn’t my forte. In spite of 42 inches attempting to accommodate a 38 inch circumference, I managed to appreciate each of the 3 participants who spoke at the service. However, should I have been concerned with being immodest according to guideline number 2?
I was asked by a few folks, “Are you alright?” I don’t know if my trousers cutting off my blood supply from my waist down was affecting my facial features or not? If so, was I immodest according to guideline number 3?
I’m not sure a protruding gut is considered “your most private body parts under the fabric,” but I felt subconscious about how much a girdle like effect, created by my trousers, could magnify a portion of my body which I did not wish to exhibit. So, again I ask, was I immodest?
1 Timothy 2:8-10 tells women to dress or “adorn themselves in modest apparel” or clothing. Isn’t it strange that Paul did not include the men in that command? He did “will” that “men pray every where, lifting up holy hands.” Why is it so perplexing when about 5% of the women neglect to obey verses 9 and 10, but not bewildering when 99.9999% of the men omit what Paul willed in verse 8?